We are surrounded with self-help books, resources, and advice promoting the latest and greatest ways to fix ourselves because, they say, we are broken. I am not against many of these resources, but I believe there is a better way to improve our lives than living out the Humpty-Dumpty nursery rhyme. It’s called self-discovery.

Imagine a life where you don’t have to put yourself back together. Self-discovery is about embracing what’s right and acknowledging the seeds of greatness that can grow out of the cracks.

When we try putting ourselves back together like Humpty-Dumpty, the experience becomes more about striving, comparison, performance, and expectation. With self-discovery, it’s all about enjoyment, rest, satisfaction, and anticipation. It’s also about learning to appreciate who you are and celebrating your uniqueness as a human being.

Years ago, I was trying emulate another public speaker. I adopted some his mannerisms, his preparation routine, and his style of communication. This led to major frustration and discouragement. But I knew it wasn’t right. That’s when I started with self-discovery.

Trying to learn more about what was right with me allowed me to concentrate on my unique speaking and engagement qualities that make me who I am today. Why would I want to be anyone else in the world but me?

You can’t leverage your unique qualities and capabilities if you don’t know what they are. And, as opposed to improving or enhancing your weaknesses, you can tear down old ideologies and ways of thinking, and go deep inside yourself to identify strengths and qualities that are meant to make each and every one of us exceptional and extraordinary.

Igniting your life is not about fixing problems and issues. It’s about building on what makes you unique. You’re great already. Find out why.

By Robb Holman