The average human being and professional dislikes conflict. Mainly, this is because people find it much easier (at least in the short term) to avoid confrontation even when they know it’s inevitable.
Let’s say someone musters up the strength and courage to confront another person. How they go about it usually sets them up for a volatile interaction, which only escalates the conflict. If there is one thing I think kids growing up in the education system should learn more, it’s healthy conflict resolution. Unfortunately, it’s just not taught enough. This puts people, including leaders, in a trial and error learning process. Thus most people engage with conflict in 1 of 3 ways: passive aggression, anger, or suppression.
When we react in any of these 3 ways, it’s an outside in approach. We’re attempting to change our team members to meet our needs instead of changing ourselves to meet their needs.
Thankfully, there is a better way!
We must work through our insecurities from the inside out.
Healthy conflict resolution has three key aspects:
Are you now ready to take this initiative to the workplace?
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